Why Aren’t There Many Indian Girls Married To Foreigners?
The question of Indian women being married to foreign men can be a tricky one as there are many Westernized girls in India who are in conflict with their families over their own points of view and the way they look at the world.
There are many conservative parents who wouldn’t even let their daughters travel or study abroad, especially in the West, out of fear that they will become “like them”, which in India translates into “immoral”. The problem is that in India it is immoral to date, have sex before marriage, and to divorce, among other things.
Traveling or studying abroad for Indian parents means their daughters will read western books, watch movies and television, make friends with people from other cultures, and eventually marry someone who is not necessarily Indian, which is clearly frowned upon. To make matters worse, Indian parents wouldn’t let their daughters study at foreign schools in India for the same reasons, so it’s clear why there aren’t more Indian women married to foreign men. They are denied the opportunity to even meet them!
Indians take marriage differently compared to people from most Western cultures. Marrying outside of one’s state and still within India isn’t popular either, let alone tying the knot with a foreigner. Indians don’t believe in divorce, and they do very much reinforce the stigma surrounding a child of divorced parents. Such a child cannot make a good husband or wife one day because their home was broken, thus they are outcast and marginalized as if they were diseased. No parent wants to do that to his/her own child so divorce is out of the question in India.
In case of Indian families living abroad, they mostly stick to their own communities and go to places they consider safe, which translates into, well, Indian. Mixing with other nationalities and ethnic groups is also frowned upon so even Indian children born outside of India end up marrying someone from the Indian community because that’s what their families expect. Indian women living in Indian communities outside of India, in the U.S. for instance or in the U.K., avoid socializing with non-Indians because they risk being labeled as “promiscuous” by their community of family and friends.
If an Indian girl manages to meet a foreign guy and establish a relationship, no matter how liberal her parents may be, they’ll always be suspicious and not in the least bit supportive of her choice. Dating a foreigner takes not only guts but the right state of mind in which an Indian girl can positively deal with her family, community and the society at large, as well as defend her choices in front of the world. In other words, Indian girls dating or married to foreigners need to be 100% sure they’ve made the right choice, despite the close people in their lives constantly undermining their decision.
It ain’t easy being an Indian girl and meeting or building a life with a non-Indian guy. Those who do find love outside of their communities have to be ready to be scorned by their parents, and better make sure he’s worth the drama!